The A-Z of Christian Dating – B
The A to Z of Christian Dating – B
B is for Beauty
The second letter of the alphabet B and the second of our dating attribute stands for BEAUTY.
Now I am sure men reading this will be thinking “Yes’! Beauty is a very important criterion for me – a woman must be beautiful if I am to contact her.” And although women may phrase it slightly differently, looks are important to us too I know.
But it is not facial features or bone structure or height or hair colour that I am talking about here.
No, the B for Beauty I want to bring to your attention is the inner beauty that is in each of us. As Christians we know we are made in the image of God. Genesis 1:27 says ‘So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them, male and female he created them’ each one of us uniquely knitted together in our mothers’ womb. Psalm 139: 13-14 ‘For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made, your works are wonderful.’
If we reflect on these verses they are wonderful statements of who each of us are.
God, who has created this amazingly beautiful world, has also created us – and if nature astounds us, how much more beautiful are his living creatures. He saved the best to last.
Now you may not feel very beautiful yourself (remember it is inner beauty I am talking about here) and you may look around at the opportunities you have to date people and think they are not very beautiful either. But if that is the case, then I suggest you stop, pray and consider people more carefully. There is beauty in every person. FACT.
Sometimes though, it has been trodden down, stamped on and is concealed by the difficulties of life. And although that might be the case, it does not mean the beauty is not there. It will just take a little more effort to find, bring out and let flourish.
So when you are next considering whether to contact someone (or date them even) try and look past their outside features which as Proverbs tell us is fleeting anyway (Proverbs 31:30 ‘Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting’) and search for the beauty within. Be prepared to go digging – be prepared to take some time over it – and be prepared to be pleasantly surprised by what you discover.
As a flower or plant responds to the sunshine, you may find that if you give others a chance to show you their beauty (in a way that most people don’t give others time to do), they will reveal aspects of themselves you had not seen at first and you may find exactly the beauty and person you wanted. You could call this seeing with your heart and not your eyes. It will take time to develop this new (or additional way) of seeing but start to see people in this way and I assure you your life will be immeasurably improved.