Dating Lessons – Maintaining a relationship is hard work, whether it is with a friend or a lover. The early days are rightfully called the honeymoon period of any relationship, with long conversations, sharing of interests, and general getting to know one another.
However the friendship or relationship can start to collapse if the initial impetus is not held on to. It is how you conduct the relationship and how much effort you invest in
it after a certain period of time which becomes the defining feature of your relationship.
These 6 ways to help a relationship develop and grow are good to know whether you are currently in a 1:1 relationship or on that path to find someone.
6 Ways to help a relationship develop and grow:
1 – Being 100% there while your friend is speaking is really important. You may think that you can multitask while listening to someone else but you can’t. Our brain can handle only one task at a time and therefore, it suspends work on one thing while completing the other. Giving someone your full and undivided attention is a great gift to give them and the dividend you’ll receive back is great. You
will find that if you really listen to someone, you can gauge a lot about the person through the nuances of their voice than what they actually say.
Maintaining eye contact is an interesting way to deepen a conversation without words being spoken, as it increases intimacy. The eyes are the windows to our soul and the deeper one looks into them the deeper they can see into our very being. Our vulnerabilities are visible through our eyes, and maintaining eye contact is an established way of increasing intimacy.
Sharing feelings of spirituality is a great way to open up to another. Our Christian faith is something that is deep, meaningful and valuable for us. Allowing another person access to how we feel about it shows that we trust them. We may also find that we view our beliefs in a different light once we have taken the trouble to share them with someone new.
2 – Being emotionally available to our partners is something that should come naturally to us but often doesn’t. We are so caught up in our own affairs that we build a shell around ourselves and don’t let people get to know the real us. This may be due to reasons of insecurity or lack of trust. Needless to say, lack of trust and insecurities do not make for a successful or healthy relationship. Being
emotionally available to your partner is the perfect way of sharing a life together.
3 – Acceptance is the key to understanding. We often have to compromise on a lot of small things in order to realise the greater goals of togetherness. For example, it doesn’t really matter if your partner refuses to like the TV show that you are such a fan of. At the end of the day, will these things count or will issues like trust, dependence, love be counted? So accept the fact that your partner is an individual entity with individual likes and dislikes that may not be in accordance with your own. Acceptance holds the key to a successful relationship.
4 – Support: There are four kinds of support according to research. Newlyweds have claimed that physical and emotional support as well as informational and support to the self-esteem, are all very important. Supporting your partner through thick and thin, making him or her feel that they can count on you is such an important thing in a relationship that it cannot be overstated. The right kind and the right level of support is the real trick. You don’t want to stifle the other person with your constant advice but you also should be there for him or her when they need it. Striking a balance in this case is absolutely crucial.
5 – Laughing together is another important activity because it helps us unwind and is also the perfect way to make a fight dissolve. Laughing is not just something we do at a joke but it is an established way of social interaction and resolving undefined tensions between people.
6 – Finding common interests is very important. Let the seven year itch not get you or your relationship down. Find and pursue common interests together. There are only so much of sweet nothings which you can whisper in the course of a relationship. Finding common interests will help you both grow together.