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A roaring success

A Roaring Success – Our First Dates Event on 13th January 2018 I’m writing this just after my wonderful team and I have had a thorough debrief from Jo following our first ‘First Dates’ event that we held on 13th January in Birmingham and as the title of...

Stay Safe!

Stay SAFE! I have written numerous times about the importance of staying safe in the dating world. I am sure the majority of internet or app dating is utilised by honest individuals who only want to meet other people for ‘honourable’ purposes.  However...

Knowing God Intimately

Book Recommendation Knowing God Intimately by Joyce Meyer   I’ve know about Joyce Meyer for many years but had not realised quite how much she’s written that is well worth reading.  Whilst on retreat at Lee Abbey in Devon last month I came across her...

An Odd Gift

An odd gift By Sheila Jacobs   It seemed an odd gift to give. Odder, perhaps, because of the nature of the giving. A young woman from my church had bought an old typewriter – in pretty good condition – from a charity shop. She was pleased with her...

Are you part of the group?

Friends1st NOTICEBOARD – email group I have recently discovered a rather good group email system (for want of a better word) that enables group participants to send messages to the group. I am excited at the opportunity that this gives friends1st to...

Encouragement to those who feel: “On My Own”

 Encouragement to those who feel: “On My Own” Many people who are single, having never been married, divorced or widowed: refer to themselves as “on my own”. As a Life Coach, I often counter this with the question “Oh, so you don’t have any friends or...

What a difference using an expert makes

What a difference using an expert makes! As you may know I’ve been running  friends1st since 1999 now – and since about month six of having started the business, I’ve always had staff working for me. Now as any of you that run your own businesses will...

Redeeming Love

Redeeming Love, by Francine Rivers Redeeming Love was our book club read last year and it’s one that we had the longest conversation about. It’s an amazing read – particularly for Christians but for those with no faith too and I can’t recommend it...

Learning to Listen

Learning to Listen by Sheila Jacobs I’ve just started something new. Once a month, I am a day chaplain at a Christian retreat house near Chelmsford, Essex. It means, essentially, taking morning and midday Prayers, and generally being available for...

Prayer for the day

I was really struck by this Prayer for the Day which I heard on the radio (BBC 4) by Rabi Rubenstein. “As a young boy, I had my entire life mapped out. I decided that I was going to become an elite guitarist in a band. Although Jimmy Hendrix and Eric...

First Date

Is a Christian first date different to any other first date? “Finding a soul mate is a natural desire for all of us – and being a Christian doesn’t make any difference to that desire. However, as a Christian how we go about our first date will be...

Making Progress

Making Progress I was waiting to see a friend the other day at her yard (she’s a keen eventer and has about 12 horses she competes regularly). Her farrier was at the yard and since it was a cold day I decided to keep warm at the back of his van where...

Rough Diamonds

Rough Diamonds: A new kind of man – tough, trusted, transformed by Anthony Delaney 'Rough Diamonds' is the follow on from 'Diamond Geezers' Men wear masks, to pretend all is well. Men are all too often anxious little boys who never become truly men,...

Dating guru reveals little known secret to meeting more people

Dating guru reveals little known secret to meeting more people,  and getting more dates… By Katharine Gray If you’re like most people, you’ll be looking for the quickest way to find your dream soul mate. Not sending spam, you’re too smart for that, but...

Grace by Sheila Jacobs

I’m always amazed at the way Jesus treated people with such grace. I have often spoken (and written) about the woman at the well’s encounter with Jesus (see John 4), but it’s interesting to look at the way He dealt not just with strangers, but with His...

Where do you live?

Where do you live? Many members tell us that they aren’t even getting to make friends with other members because of where they live – i.e. they live too far away from the person they’ve contacted. We had a piece of written feedback about this recently...

Something Better

Something better I love the stories of Jesus in the Gospels. Jesus doesn’t change; He treats people today as He treated them when He walked the earth. So we can learn about how God interacts with us by looking at how Jesus interacted with people on a...

The importance of listening

Dating Lesson - The Importance of Listening Did you play the childhood game called “Chinese Whispers”? Listening is one of the most powerful social skills in our possession, and despite early lessons (or games) on its importance, mastering it can take a...