1 is the loneliest number!

1 is the loneliest number!

The number of people living alone – whether by choice, by circumstances, through divorce or the death of a partner – is growing rapidly in our society today. Even as you read this article, you can probably think of at least 5 people on their own – and, if you know them well, you’ll know the majority of them suffer from loneliness and would rather not be alone which is why 1 is the loneliest number .

God knows that many of us find it difficult to live on our own, that is why he instituted marriage – “It is not good for the man to be alone.”  And so God created Eve and many people today believe that in a similar way God will somehow just bring ‘Eve’ into their lives.  But that is not the only biblical pattern given to us.

When Abraham wanted a wife for his son Isaac he didn’t just pray about it. He sent his servant on a long and hard journey to his homeland to search out the right woman. Undoubtedly it was a journey covered in prayer but at the heart of this story is the servant’s work searching out and finding Rebekah who then returns to marry Isaac.

Similarly in the book of Ruth, we find Naomi (Ruth’s mother-in-law) directly intervening to find a husband for Ruth and, as a result of her work, Ruth marries Boaz.

In both these stories we see an important principle at work: ‘Pray as if it all depended on God – work as if it all depended on you’.

friendsfirst  – the Christian friendship organisation – is an agent like Abraham’s servant which God has been using since 1999 to bring people of all ages – young and old – together. Our work rests on biblical principles which go right back to the book of Genesis.

So if you are on your own and would rather not be, or you know others in this position, why not get in touch with friendsfirst and let them do the necessary work to bring about a change to this situation. friendsfirst has a very member-orientated focus and is run solely by Christians for Christians. It’s a very effective way to make new friends and soulmates. For an informal and confidential chat about membership ring Katharine Gray at the Head Office on 0121 427 1286 or look at their website www.friends1st.co.uk.

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