Does anybody gets fed up when someone you are writing stops without explanation

[bradfordbantam]

Hi there
One thing that annoys me about writing to people who you find out about in contact lists is that after exchangeing a few letters they stop writing to me without a explanation of why. Does anyone else feel the same

[jayjay]

Yes I agree it is annoying but judging by a lot of christian forums all to common I try not to take it personally:mad:lol and to carry on with the business at hand which is to meet a genuine man of god all the best.:)

[Rosiandjim]

I think sometimes people are scared of hurting other people's feelings so just stop the contact, but that ends up making the other person just as upset or annoyed, a polite note saying you are not continuing writing is surely only common decency.

[Rob]

I do find it frustrating when people stop writing or fail to reply when an initial letter/e-mail is sent. It can be difficult for one to tell someone they do not wish to continue writing. However, I believe a message along the lines of:

"Thank you for taking the time to write to me. I regret to inform you that I do not wish to continue this correspondence. Best wishes"

is fairly easy to write and ends the correspondence in a positive manner. In my experience I feel a lot less hurt by a message such as the above rather than no reply at all. One can take encouragement from a message such as the above but can be very discouraged if no reply is received.

[nuttyloaf]

I have contacted a couple of people who have not replied at all. I take this to mean they are not at all the right partner for me.

I do wonder what sort of person they are to not even respond - it is not very friendly at all. Maybe they have lost heart or got involved in other things? If so they could contact Friends First for advice - if lost heart - or to end their membership if no longer wanting to invest time and effort into finding a life long friend and partner.

:confused:

[Rob]

Re Nuttyloaf: I have had similar experiences to yourself. It doesn't make sense that people fork out money to have their profile circulated but don't reply when a letter/e-mail is sent. :confused:
It is possible that people may not be able to reply due to a variety of reasons. (E.g. gone into hospital, computer broken, gone travelling for a month). When I haven't heard for a month or so I e-mail/write again (just a short message) and in some cases have received a response in the next few days. :)
I know from experience that you may not receive a reply even after a 2nd/3rd e-mail/letter. If this happens I suggest contacting the Friend's First team. They may know something or be able to get in touch with the member not replying.