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Top Tips for making new friends and enjoying successful relationships by friendsfirst

 

“Thank you very much for responding so promptly to my application from.  I’m very impressed with the Top Tips booklet: sensible and thoughtful.”

(Pat, Practice Nurse)

“Mainly I thought the Top Tips book was very good. It is true that I’m not very good at making friends but it has given me confidence. This kind of thing isn’t easy – sometimes it can be difficult and embarrassing.”

(Pam, Housewife)

“Helpful because having been married for 24 years, I was very rusy about dating”

(anonymous)

“Though I have been happily married for 9 months now (Jan 07); I have found your ‘Looking for Love again’ book very helpful and informative. Reading it reminded me of the struggles I had faced, and I realized I hadn’t gone through some of the issues written about until I’d read the book. It was helpful to know that others had faced similar issues and were prepared to share them.Reading about comparing potential partners with one’s deceased spouse reminded me of when I’d written my profile for friendsfirst. I was so conscious of not wanting to replace my first husband that I went too far the other way. I made the description of who I wanted to meet so different, and I set my expectations so high that it was possibly quite off putting for some people reading it. In fact this is what happened Brian read my profile and although he was initially interested he was also put off by some things I’d said. It was only because I rang him and we had a few conversations, and then met and got to know each other, that we both realized we were compatible. We then realized what each of us were looking for, and the rest is history as they say.
However after marriage I have found myself comparing him to my first husband, without realizing it, and reading this book has reminded me of the dangers of doing this.It is true that a person doesn’t have to have been through the same life experiences in order for a relationship to work. In my case I’d often told Brian, in the early stages of our relationship, that I didn’t see how it could work out, as he had never been married, bereaved or had children as I had, so could never understand me. However to his credit he persevered, replying that he didn’t believe this, and wanted a chance to try to understand, by asking questions and listening, which he did, and still continues to do. His willingness and success in doing this has been greatly responsible for the success of our relationship. Living in a new partner’s house, I believe, is a difficult one as the books mentions.

(Sheila, Foster Carer)

Really liked the advice in the Top Tips Book – wished he had come across it a long time ago!

(James 48 Bantry)

“I was feeling very unsure about the whole thing and your booklet helped give me a bit more confidence”

(anonymous)

“Your Top tips is a brilliant book, a great guide to dating, especially when I haven’t been out with anyone for more than 14 years, I’m really excited”

(yvonne 56 Divorced)

“The guide is brilliant. Thank you.” –

(“Baz”)

“The Top Tips book is very practical, not overly religious, realistic and humorous”

(anonymous)

the last 2-tutorials were really , really-great and that tutorial about the 10-Datng-Mistakes you’all sent me last-July-2012 , I found really and really-great . your Tutorial-Dating-Class-Number-Twelve of 7th-January-2013, very and very-useful to me. I PLAN TO BE MORE AND MORE-PROACTIVE , POSITIVE AND KEEP PERSEVERING as you’ve mentioned in Tutorial-Number-Twelve.

(Leandro 39 single)

“I found reading your top tips booklet very useful and it helped me to feel more confident about starting making contacts”

(Maureen, Counsellor)

“I found the free Top Tips book you sent me at the beginning of my membership very useful and I was able to apply a lot of it to myself.”

(David, Bank Clerk)

“I found your Risking Romance Again book to be a concise, well-structured and funny short book containing a wealth of wisdom and advice.  I will find it a valuable reference aid if I ever progress to the “courtship” stage!

(Mary, Teacher)

“Your Top Tips book has excellent tips in it.”

(Jan, Administrator)

“Your Top Tips book has been very useful. It gives you the confidence to contact other people and realise that everyone is nervous”.

(Anon)

“I found the widows guide to be really well put together and the added sense of humour is brilliant – one needs that!!”

(John – Financial Advisor)

“The Top Tips book dymystified the art of making contact.”

(anonymous)

“Your Top Tips is a good book. It was very helpful with regards to correspondence and how to approach people and how to keep a friendship open. I need it all and it was really helpful. It’s helped me to contact other people.”

(Daniel, Accountant)

“The information you send….. I’m gobsmacked by the information you’ve sent and the help you give people. I’m so buoyed up by all your correspondence and help”

(Karol by phone to KG)

“Alot of the information and advice in the top tips book was common sense, but it was good to have it set out. It’s easy to forget things if you have been out of the ‘dating’ situation for some time. Like the non-judmenntal way it was presented.”

(anonymous)

“Thank you very much for responding so promptly to my application from.  I’m very impressed with the Top Tips booklet: sensible and thoughtful.”

(Pat, Practice Nurse)

“I absolutely love the Cloud 9 magazine, I find it so inspiring and it got to the point where I would get my pack through, put the profiles aside, make a cup of tea & read the magazine from cover to cover! It became more about receiving the magazine than anything else and I have put so many things from the magazine in to practice in my own life!”

(Janet – 52 – foster Carer)

“The Top Tips book was confidence building.”

(anonymous)

“I found your top tips book really good. I really like the option of being able to hand write a letter to other members. Your conversation with me about my profile has been very helpful. I was feeling very uncomfortable about it but after talking to you I feel much happier now. “

(Julia 40 Divorced)

I thought your ’10 Commandments’ was fantastic!  Sensible, and biblical too… good sound advice

(Jane 59 Inverness – enquirer)

“Thank you for sending the ‘Looking for Love the Second time round’ book. In fact it was the information in it that decided me to join your organisation.”

(Noel, 66 – Retired)

“Your book – Risking Romance Again, Dating after Divorce – is brilliant. It’s just so real. I’ve read my copy 3 times. The author really hits the nail on the head. He really understands what it’s like to be divorced and starting again. I’ve never read anything like it. I’ve bought another copy to give to a friend. I’d definitely recommend it to others.”

(Bridget, PA)

“Your top tips book is absolutely brilliant – it’s more or less the way I think.”

(John 76 single)

“The Top Tips book is pretty sound and reminded me of things I had forgotten

(anonymous)

“Your Top Tips book made me realise initial contact was important.”

(anonymous)

“The Top Tips book does provide helpful guidance, especially on making the first contact.”

(anonymous)

“Your booklet for tips on making friends really is excellent”

(Jeanne, Organist)

‘I’ve learnt a great deal from your fabulous literature.’

[Ngozi ]

“Lots of good tips are found in your Top Tips book”

(anonymous)

“Your male Christian friendship group is excellent. I’ve realised that it’s a journey and a process. I’ve really been helped by all those good books you’ve given me.”

(Anne East Riding 54)

“I’ve read your ‘Top Tips’ booklet and it really inspired me. It put me onto a completely different wavelength and has really opened my mind up to new possibilities. I really like the way you wrote it.”

(Jane, Child Minder)

‘Thank you for your assistance since I joined Friends 1st back last April. I do want to thank you for all the information; your patience and courtesy on the telephone and by email, and also to say that God has used what you have shared, including in the weekly encouragement emails, to transform a little my way of thinking- I especially benefit from that quotation from Goethe, regarding God moving as we commit and move. I have seen this in my own experience.’

(Susan 0 )

“Thank you for all the literature you’ve sent me on joining friendsfirst. I’ve found it really really useful. The ‘Top Tips’ is a great read and it’s got some really sensible advice in it. Writing it was an excellent idea – it’s fantastic. Thank you.”

(Janice)

“I’ve just read your book and it’s absolutely excellent. It’s absolutely wonderful. I love the language.”

( Martin )

“The Top Tips book is very down to earth, put me at ease with the funny sketches, excellent material.”

(anonymous)

“Your Top Tips book is wonderful, some of the points made are so useful”

(Martin, Lawyer)

“Tips for the first meeting were valuable”

(anonymous)

“Your accompanying booklet ‘Top Tips’ – I find that absolutely brilliant – congratulations to you. I’m looking forward to making new friends.”

(Carol, Retired)

“I found your top tips book very practical and very good. A really nice guide.”

(Wendy, RGN)

“The Top Tips book gave reasonably important guidance that’s crucial to successful meetings.”

(anonymous)

“The Top Tips book had good Christian valudes and I very much appreciate the confidentiality aspect.”

(anonymous)

“Your top tips books was great. The bit on maturing age was excellent and how to write and contact people was very very helpful.”

(Alan, Retired)

Dear Katharine, I did not download the guide for myself, as I am an older and well practised traveller. My intention is to pass it on to single prospective travellers whom I meet fairly regularly. Having said that, I found the booklet to be very well written and easy to read. I am sure it will be both instructive and a blessing to those whom I pass it on in the future. Kindest regards,

(Mac Senior Partner Kings Audio)

I enjoy reading the 7 deadly sins I’ve e learnt a lot!

(Emma 45 single)

Yes i felt the 10 Commandments of Dating guide was really helpful and informative and certainly gave me something to think about.  I will read it through again to mull over some of your comments. I am pleased it is also very much from a Christian view point

(Jan )

“Good advice and guidance”

(anonymous)

It was great to meet you, albeit briefly, at Bristol on Friday.  Thank you and your colleagues very much for organising this event.  You must have been so disappointed at the way the venue turned out, and that three of those booked didn’t turn up; nevertheless you made the best of it for those of us there, and I do appreciate that. It is always interesting meeting new people, and to have the opportunity provided of doing so, in a safe environment, and on my part with no high expectations, was a good learning experience.

(Janet 68 single)

“Many thanks indeed for sending me the M&S vouchers – much appreciated! I have just read right through the ‘Top tips’ book, and think it is really excellent, so honest and helpful- and the drawings are wonderful! Thank you again for all your help. Best wishes.”

(Susan, Translator)

“I think your top tips book is absolutely delightful. I really enjoyed reading it – if no-one contacts me it’ll have been worth joining just for the book. It should be a best seller and I adored the pictures.”

(Fionna 75 Civil Servant)

“The Top Tips book is well written and great tips.”

(anonymous)

“Good sensible advice and encouragement is found in your Top Tips book.”

(anonymous)

I’ve been enjoying reading the 7 deadly sins very helpful.

(Emma 45 single)

“The Top Tips book was like getting a refresher on things I already knew but needed to be reminded of.”

(anonymous)

Just to say thank you for an enjoyable time at the lunch on Saturday. I met a few new people and the company with Jamie’s imput (Nordic walking) too was good fun.

( Gill 67 Widowed)

“There’s some very valuable content in your top tips book which I found very useful. It’s obvious but sometimes you nee the obvious pointed out to you to make you think about it.”

(Linda, Nurse)

“The Top Tips book sharpens up your manner and approach to possible matches.”

(anonymous)

“Your ‘Top Tips’ book is well put together and very useful to someone who has been out of the dating game for a while”

(Joy, Translator)

“The book about risking romance after divorce is excellent”

(Karen, Doctor)

“I’m really pleased with the book you sent me. It has a wealth of information in it that is very useful. I found it very good indeed. It’s really helped me to take the bull by the horns and get on with contacting others. It’s been very valuable to me and I’ve also been very encouraged by it.”

(Kevin, Postman)

“Having not dated for a long time your top tips book gave some useful advice.”

(anonymous)

Your Top Tips book made me think very carefully about other people’s feelings – not just my own! It focuesed my mind and made me think about things from the other person’s perspective too. It served as a gentle reminder of many things that are easily forgotten when one is out of practice.”

(anonymous)

“I have enjoyed reading the widows guide and I think you are going to help a lot of people with it.”

(Bernard)

“I have thoroughly enjoyed the 7 Deadly Sins readings …certainly gives one the insight into obvious behaviour patterns when one meets folk – either in a group or on a one to one basis.   Shall  make sure I learn from your expert advice.”

(Rita )

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‘I just want to say thank you for your kind letter you sent me recently. I’m sure something of the kind of person you are came through it, and if […]

(Gordon, Fitter)

“Many thanks once again for giving me an interesting year and for your positive support and encouragement.”

(Kathryn 46 single primary school teacher)

“It really helps when I get your calls – it makes me feel someone is out there to help me.”

(Margaret, Information Manager)

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(John 65 Divorced)

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