The Dating Academy is a development of our previously offered MASTERMIND course.
I don’t know if you’ve noticed but a lot of people who join dating websites, agencies or use dating apps aren’t successful? This is something that greatly concerns me, not least because I believe that finding love and companionship is at the heart of the abundance Jesus talks about when he says in John10:10 “I have come so that they may have life and have it in abundance.”
It’s because of this, that over the years, our service has incorporated more and more support, encouragement, teaching and specifically coaching of members because, I whole heartedly believe and know, from so many years of experience that, the reason people don’t always find what they hope for, is NOT primarily because there aren’t suitable matches on our books, (or anywhere else for that matter), but rather it’s because the way they go about meeting others, the way they think and the way they behave simply isn’t getting them the results they want.
In 2015 we started our year long coaching programmes called Mastermind and ran two of these in 2015 and 2016. For 2017 we want to open this up to many more people so we’ve developed something similar but better called The Dating Academy.
The Dating Academy is a 6-month programme that will run over 5 full Saturdays spread approximately six weeks apart. It will contain the key elements of our Mastermind courses (particularly the action planning and accountability that is key to Mastermind’s effectiveness) AND a significant amount of teaching from respected speakers and authors on relevant topics to compliment and enhance what we normally do in a Mastermind group.
The 2017 ‘Dating Academy’ programme offers a select group of people the opportunity to spend concentrated time developing their thinking, knowledge, skills and attributes so that they too can successfully find the love and happiness they desire.
Our Dating Academy programme is designed to enable you to learn how to think in the right way, learn all the necessary skills you need and to do the right things in the right way and thereby find the partner you want and the happiness you deserve.
If you’re accepted onto it, you’ll be one of an exclusive group of people who will work directly with me, my team and a number of other highly regarded experts over a six month period.
The Dating Academy consists of 5 full-day workshops spread over six months.
The programme kicks off with a day of theory and action planning. You’ll be looking at your life in detail, your relationship history and the particular challenges you’ve faced in finding the right partner. The chances are you are following one particular strategy (even if it’s an unconscious one) and this is our first principle: Understand your strategy and work out if it’s really the best one for you. The better you can map out and understand your unique background, history and life experience, the more progress you’ll make over the whole programme and beyond.
We’ll also be discussing what is working for others. It’s time to discover what other strategies you can embrace because what works for others can definitely work for you too.
You’ll end this day with some concrete action points to implement straight away so you can start improving the results you’re getting immediately. You’ll be connecting with a small group of people with the freedom to share as much or as little about yourself as you wish. This is at the heart of the Mastermind principles.
The benefits of Mastermind come from the sharing that group members do, but we have worked with people who’ve chosen to share little of themselves and yet who’ve massively benefited from the programme as well – so don’t be put off by the group structure. It’s there to assist you if you want it.
Day Two to Five
On each of the following days the day will be split into two parts. One half will consist of speakers delivering relevant and highly useful material. We have lined up some superb speakers whose details you can see at the back of this brochure.
The other half of the day will spent in further Mastermind type sessions where we’ll be learning in small groups and focusing on the progress made with your action plan.
You see I’ve been to loads of conferences and seminars and although they’ve generally delivered top quality material, and I’ve left inspired with great intentions of making changes in my life, the reality is that, two days later, life has taken over again and my great intentions generally come to nothing.
And that’s why theory on its own isn’t enough. You need some way to be held accountable to what you say you’re going to do, and the mini-Mastermind sessions will give you just that.
The accountability is a key part of Mastermind (and something that everyone grows into and relishes!) but the other key part is what comes from seeing what other people are doing (both what works and doesn’t work) and being able to view their experience totally unemotionally and objectively. It’s almost impossible to view your own journey and actions like this, which is why the insight from others, who understand because they are on the same path as you, is so valuable. It’s hard to envision what this is like until you’ve experienced it for yourself but let me assure you this part of Mastermind and our Dating Academy is incredibly POWERFUL.
The ultimate goal with the Dating Academy is that between every single meeting, you’ll see significant improvements in your confidence, your contacts with other single people, the number of dates you’re getting and the friendships you’re developing. It’s a tried and tested approach and I promise you the results go way beyond what you can imagine.
No matter what your personal goal is, or what problems you’ve faced in this area of your life, the chances are we’ve seen it before and resolved it for one of our successful members.
So I doubt there’s anything you can bring or throw at us that we can’t handle.
DATING ACADEMY Schedule
Workshop One Saturday October 7th 2017
Workshop Two Saturday November 25th 2017
Workshop Three Saturday January 20th 2018
Workshop Four Saturday March 3rd 2018
Workshop Five Saturday April 28th 2018
Each date is a day-long session/workshop
Book early and be rewarded with our EARLY BIRD BENEFITS
You have until 20th September at the very latest to make your decision about participating in the Dating Academy.
But if you are able to act swiftly and make your decision by 15th September, then you’ll benefit from our EARLY BIRD BONUSES.
Send back your application form and make your first payment by 15th September and you’ll also get:
- A 30 minute personal telephone consultation with Katharine before the programme begins to get to know you better, discuss in confidence any challenges you’ve faced in the past or present and to make sure you come prepared to make the very best of the programme
- A complimentary copy of speaker Roy Sheppard’s best selling book “How to be the One”
- Priority seating at the front of the auditorium
- The option to send in questions in advance to the speakers of each day
- Priority placing for any video profile/photo shoots that are offered during the course
- Graduation gift presented at the end of the course of the “Finding Someone Special” Toolkit
The venue of the each workshop is going to be very close to Stratford-upon-Avon, easily accessible by train or bus and with good free parking available on site. If you’d like to stay overnight before or after the workship, there is plenty of very reasonably priced accommodation on offer locally in Stratford-upon- Avon.
Are you Eligible to Apply for The Dating Academy?
To be considered for our Dating Academy you need to be committed to a future which includes a significant other. It doesn’t matter what your background or history is, what everyone will share is a common desire to find the person of their dreams and be the person they deserve. You will have an eagerness to learn and grow, and a willingness to put into practice what you learn and discover.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve had lots of relationships before or none, are single, have been married before or are widowed. What DOES matter is that you’re fully committed to the Academy for six months and to growing personally.
This is not something for the fainthearted or for those unwilling to look at their thinking, their actions and their lives in detail.
But this is something for anyone who understands that becoming the unique person God made you to be –enabling you to find the right partner and finding the happiness that a great relationship will bring – is priceless and worth every fibre of your being, every effort necessary and every penny of your finances if necessary.
To apply you must provide a brief summary of your life, your relationship history and the strategies you’ve been using to find your soul mate, so that we can put people in the ‘right’ groups. Jim Rohn put it best when he said, ‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.’
How to apply for the Dating Academy – What happens next
Step 1: Decide on your preferred payment option. Click here to view your options
Step 2: Complete the application form by downloading it here: Dating Academy Application Form
Your application form MUST reach us by Wednesday 20th September at the latest
Step 3: Secure your place (make your payment – click here to pay)
Step 4: Telephone interview with Katharine if required.
You may receive a phone call the following week from Katharine or one of the team as they decide on the right members for the group, if they need any further information or to discuss anything with you.
Step 5: The Moment of Truth
The final decision will be made on the week commencing 25th September. If your application has been successful, you can expect a call that week confirm that you’re in.
Step 6: Your journey begins
By applying to be part of the Dating Academy you are agreeing to abide by the following rules should your application be accepted:
- The Academy is a six month commitment. If you’re in, you’re IN.
- You must attend at least three of the day-long workshops. No excuses.
- You must respect the confidentiality of the other participants.
- What’s shared with the Group stays with the Group.
- No moaning, lateness or bad attitudes.
You can benefit from our lump sum payment by paying in one lump sum. Alternatively you can spread the cost by paying in four instalments but by making the first payment you are thereby contracted to make all four irrespective of your attendance on the programme.
Once you’ve made your first payment for the Dating Academy no refunds will be considered (unless of course you are not accepted onto the Dating Academy). However if at the end of the programme you don’t think your investment was the best investment in your personal life, you’ll be entitled to a year’s free membership with friends1st.
The Academy is open to men and women but should NOT be seen as an opportunity to meet other member with whom to start a relationship with. This might happen but it is not the Academy’s purpose or intent, and there is no guarantee that number of men and women attending will be equal. Please note that all work done in small groups will be done in same sex groups.
“I think we were privileged to be on such a course. The concept of using a course to tackle this subject area is an excellent idea. I’ve appreciated having words for my individual situation and felt ‘moved on’ around several subjects such as taking and making opportunities, doing things you enjoy doing and looking at what the impact of your immediate surroundings may have. I have become much more aware of the ‘issues’ that affect me. I liked being reminded to take up relevant opportunities but it’s the accountability that’s been great and really fundamental. This worked well for everyone. Katharine has great insight and this has been key.”
(Female Mastermind participant 2016/7 – (48) from Woking)
“I joined the Mastermind programme as I wanted a deliberate and sustained focus on trying to find somebody special. Having to report back to encouraging ears has been unbelievably affirming and helpful in keeping me on task. Mastermind changed my mindset. I used to be ashamed of my singleness, thinking it was because of something wrong with me. I thought if it was meant to be it would have happened by now. Yes of course it is partly about the way I am, but It’s also because of the way life had been and my reticence to put my flag out and invite others in. Also I haven’t given the search the priority it deserves. In other words I haven’t given myself the priority I deserve.
My nervousness, defensiveness and fear in the group subsided over time as I gained confidence in Katharine and the other group members’ support and understanding. Coming to terms with some of my own particular challenges and the general acceptance from the group have moved me forward enormously.
I have particularly enjoyed actively engaging with this part of my life, learning to ‘play’ with changing my behaviour, making it fun, learning that it isn’t the end of the world if it doesn’t go according to plan, keeping on ‘kicking the can’ and the group sessions especially as I got know the others better.
I found Katharine’s leadership unfailingly cheerful, constructive and enabling. Knowing I was not alone in dealing with this aspect of my life has been amazing.
It is very good to travel with the group and realise that as we do so, my perceptions of them and theirs of me have changed – we all did genuinely grow. I gained enormous support and useful feedback from others are in similar boats.
If you want support in keeping focussed on searching for somebody special this is what Mastermind will offer you. Having to report back to Katherine and then the group is both scary and enormously helpful. I’m also now no longer putting off making the most of my Friends 1st membership
I was petrified to begin with – now I find I’m much more relaxed open and confident.”
(Mastermind Participatn 2016/7 – Elizabeth (67) from Birmingham)
“I have learnt to actively expand my horizons and Katharine has been very helpful at pointing the way to that. I’ve dropped my ‘oughts’ and ‘shoulds’ and have been really helped to see things differently. My perspective has changed. I am much more flexible now and far less worried, and I’ve learnt to trust myself more.”
(Female Mastermind Participant 2016/7 (65) from the New Forest)
“I love the accountability side of Mastermind – being answerable for what actions you agree to take between meetings and knowing that others expect you to be committed to the process has had a dramatic impact on how I’ve moved forward in reaching the goals of my personal life. Being in a confidential and secure environment, where others are sharing their experiences and issues, is a great place to find solutions to problems that may exist.
Mastermind is totally unique – you won’t find anything like it anywhere else and if moving forward in your personal life and finding the right relationship is important to you, I’d highly recommend it to you.”
(Male Mastermind Participant 2015 – (56) from Yorkshire)
“As a result of the Mastermind course I now have an openness to meet lots of new people and I’ve found it’s fun! I have definitely changed as a result of Mastermind and lots of people have noticed the difference in me! I have more energy now, more self confidence and I’ve been enabled to get lots more done. In the past I missed opportunties which I am able to grasp now and I’ve realised there are way more opportunites available to me than I’d seen before. I am feeling more confident and my thinking has changed. I have found the regular action planning very useful and have really enjoyed the practical sides of the course. The setting of deadlines has really helped me. I have opened up to men much more and feel much more relaxed and warm around them. I am definitiely more confident around them. It’s been most useful sharing my journey, being held accountable and getting help to see things objectively. Overall I have enjoyed it and found it very useful. The significant cost was definitely worth it. It’s been brilliant.”
(Female Mastermind Participant 2016/7 – (44) from Birmingham)
Speaker Profile – Anthony Delaney
Having formerly been a police officer for 10 years, Anthony went into church leadership in 1995 and now leads Ivy Church, a movement gathering in community centres, cinemas, an arts centre, a nightclub, a warehouse and even a church building – the growth of which was recently subject of a six page feature in The Independent.
Anthony’s books include ‘Rough Diamonds’, ‘The B.E.S.T. Marriage’, ‘OMG’, ‘The Don’t Have To Do List’ and ‘Work It Out’. His teaching is broadcast across the UK and Europe weekly on UCB radio and he features regularly on national BBC Radio.
He is a regular a keynote speaker at Britain’s largest Christian conferences including New Wine & Spring Harvest, Ivy Church supports missions worldwide, giving over 25% of its income per annum to mission. Anthony travels widely internationally to further these missional objectives. Anthony is married to Zoe. They have three grow up children and three grandsons.
At Westminster Theological Centre (accredited by the University of Chester), Anthony lectures to Graduate level on ‘Transformational Leadership.’ He also leads NewThing in western Europe which aims to train and deploy apostolic leaders and church planters across the globe with the goal of planting 10,000 new reproducing churches.
Speaker Profile – Roy Sheppard
Roy Sheppard is the author of a dating book with a difference. “How to be The One” asks a simple question: Why should anyone stop their search for a life-partner once they’ve met YOU?
With so many single people to choose from you might well be only a click away from becoming the ‘ex’ in the word n-ex-t!!There is always the tantalising possibility there is someone out there ‘better’ than you. So what do you need to do to ensure that does not happen?
Roy will be sharing how to become the best version of YOU. To be as appealing as possible in deeper, more meaningful ways so that other people’s search stops with you!
Roy has spoken at conferences all over the world and is acknowledged as the European expert on building profitable relationships in business through networking and referrals. He has worked as a visiting lecturer at Cranfield University’s full-time MBA course. And more recently at Henley School of Management and Bath University.
For many years Roy was a radio and television broadcaster, mainly with the BBC. But also at ITV in Cardiff and LBC Radio in London. Working both regionally and nationally for the BBC, he presented music and interview-based programmes, including the Sony Award winning “In the News” on BBC Radio 4.
His books include “Meet Greet and Prosper”, “Rapid Result Referrals” and “Your Personal Survival Guide to the 21st Century.” In 2008 he co-wrote (with Mary T Cleary) and published “Venus: The Dark Side”. The same book is called “That Bitch: Protect Yourself Against Women with malicious Intent”
In October 2010 he published “How to be The One” which became the subject of a two page spread in YOU, the UK’s top circulation women’s magazine (part of The Mail on Sunday) and was a lead story on CNN.com’s Lifestyle website.
July 2013 saw the simultaneous publication of Dear Son: what I wish I’d known at your age and Dear Daughter: what I wish I’d known at your age. These are gift books from parents and grandparents to every 15 to 25 year old. Described by The Mature Times as “The best gift you can give a teenager”
Speaker profile – Sarah Rodger
Sarah’s career to date has been in roles that have all been customer facing, which has given her a high degree of skill in understanding people, putting them at their ease and getting the best out of them. She has worked and lived oversees in nine different countries for a large travel company and has a wealth of experience in successfully persuading people to take action in certain desired ways.
Sarah is able to motivate people and give direction, she has a natural ability to ‘read between the lines’ and give practical advice. She can challenge people and help people challenge themselves, in matters close to the heart. Sarah has been happily married for 9 years.
Speakers Profile – Charles Wright
Charles Wright has a professional background in training and development for over
25 years, running management and inter-personal programmes and presentation skills courses. He has particular interest in the courtesy and etiquette of interaction, especially in the early stages of a potential romantic relationship.
Charles has appeared on TV and radio, and spoken at many large conferences, both in the UK and abroad.
Speaker Profile – Peter Spalton – The Dating Doctor
Peter Spalton is a well-respected expert in the field of human interaction and non-verbal communications. A sales and marketing professional for over 20 years, he combines the skills of selling and the science of body language with the art of flirting and seduction.
He works as a flirting expert and he has a talent to help both sexes build their confidence and create lasting relationships. In fact he’s widely recognised as one of the UK’s top dating coaches with the media giving him labels such as the Date Doctor, Love Coach, Dating Guru and Body Boffin. He frequently gives expert advice to newspapers and magazines on a whole host of issues to do with love and relationships. He has done numerous radio interviews and has appeared live on most of the national TV stations as well as numerous BBC and commercial radio stations around the country.
Speaker Profile – Michelle Taylor
At the age of 18 Michelle founded and ran a Theatre-In-Education company which worked in school’s ministry around the UK. She then spent a year working for TBN, the Christian television network, in Italy. Upon returning to the UK she trained at the Royal Welsh College of Music & Drama for four years, after which she taught Drama and Theatre Studies, got married and had children. She has been involved in ministry for 30 years organising and running women’s ministry and conferences; prayer ministry and discipleship course; mentoring; preaching; church planting and leadership. She is currently training to be a vicar with the CofE at Trinity College, Bristol, and is excited to see where God leads her and her family in the near future. Her passion is facilitating intimacy between Christ and His Bride and she continues to do so at every given opportunity.
She and her husband have been married for 21 years and have 2 sons and 2 daughters. Michelle is excited to see where God takes them all in the near future and has a particular passion to help people become more intimate with Christ.
Speaker Profile – Liz Scott
Liz Scott – a leading Image Consultant for over 15 years loves to help people find their true confidence by making the most of their personal image.
Having trained extensively in colour analysis, personal styling, make-up, men’s image, and corporate image services with the world’s leading image consultancy, Colour Me Beautiful she spends her time helping people make the most of themselves and develop an image that is authentically them and enables them to lead the fulfilling life they wish to live.
It’s all about making a difference to people, whether it be on a one-to-one basis in her studio or at their home or delivering Personal Branding training in Corporate Organisations such as Cisco, SKY, BP, Allianz or Marks and Spencer’s to name a few.
Spending time with Liz is a collaborative, fun and empowering experience that can seem like a real “treat” spending time on you. Life is about being happy; looking good and feeling good can make such a difference that everything else then just falls into place.
Speaker profiles – Jo Marriott/Sacha Jorden
Jo has a background in Recruitment and Training – an industry she worked in for the past 20 years spending that time helping hundreds of people from all walks of life to find new jobs and careers, mentoring them to feel secure and happy in their chosen position. This isn’t much dissimilar to dating – an arena in which Jo now uses her skills and experience to help, mentor and match individuals so they can enjoy a fulfilling, happy and loving relationship.
Sacha has been involved in the dating industry for many years now covering all aspects of dating with much of her time dedicated to being a personal matchmaker. Understanding and connecting with her clients enables her to identify who would be a compatible partner for them, which quite often has been opposite to the type of person they initially thought would be their ideal! Heeding her advice and encouragement, and getting her support and empathy has led many clients to achieve success, not just with dating but with other areas of their life.
Jo and Sacha currently work closely together and will be delivering a session as a duo!