We are often asked how successful friendsfirst is?
If you judge success by the number of marriages we've had then we are very successful. And if you add in the numbers of people making new friends (which is what some people join for) then it's even better
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Members Newsletter July 2009
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friendsfirst's 7th Members Newsletter
Keeping in touch July, 2009 - Issue 7
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| Dear Katharine, |
Hi, Welcome to our 7th Newsletter dedicated to friendsfirst members. I am sure you'll enjoy the lovely cartoon we've had on our office notice board for a while as well as the articles which we hope you'll find useful and thought-provoking.
As ever, your feedback is always welcome and if you want to talk to us in person, we are only a phone call away. If you have any topic you'd like to see covered in future issues, please do let us know.
With best wishes,
Patricia
Patricia Gilliam
friendsfirst Membership Manager |
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| friendsfirst's News |
Another engagement
The day after our last newsletter went out we received this email:
"Hi, I was so amazed when I read your latest newsletter about another engagement, I met Heather last May and we got engaged on 2nd November and are busy planning our wedding on September 26th the same day as the other Dave and Heather. It too feels such a blessing from God in bringing us together thank you for the part you played in that please don't hesitate to contact us if you need any further info, yours in Christ, Dave."
And more relationships.....
We don't know if it's because of the greater number of members we now have, or because people are getting more proactive, but we do seem to have a steady flow of people ringing us up to freeze their membership because of starting relationships. We hope this encourages you to be proactive - make the move to contact others and your own situation may well change.
Letters and postage
When you send letters via us to other members, please do make sure you a) put a stamp on the letter you want us to forward and b) put the right amount of postage on. We don't pay your postage for you, and if your postage is wrong, it really will give the person you are writing to quite the wrong first impression of you.
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The effects of your dating criteria on your dating chances
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I recently found an article in the Guardian by a very, very tall girl called Arianne Cohen - it's basically about her height but in it she says something very interesting about dating:
I had never dated anyone shorter than me. I spent my time seeking out the 3% of men taller than me, who by definition made me not tall. I was alerted to the error of my ways while interviewing love and relationship expert Dr Betty Dodson. When I told her I only dated up, she exclaimed, "You're prejudiced! I mean, come on! Develop a sense of humour! It will help. Look in the mirror and say, 'God damn, we're a weird-looking couple.' And then shut it off." This was among the most life-changing advice I've ever received. Because she's not talking about height. She's talking about the way in which we all unwittingly corner ourselves by whittling down our options. Perhaps you only date or befriend people who are your ethnicity, or are overly educated, or in a certain field. And suddenly, just like that, 90% of your pool disappears.
It's certainly food for thought for all of us. To read the complete article click here.
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Things aren't always as they seem!
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Wit and Wisdom
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"Dress up and put on diamonds even to answer the phone, as it changes the way you are." (Mae West)
"Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you." (Jean-Paul Sartre)
"Too often we enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought." (John F. Kennedy)
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Change your mindset
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It was Henry Ford who once said, "If you believe you can do a thing, or you believe you can't, you're probably right." This is what Brian Tracy refers to in his best selling book Maximum Achievement as the Law of Belief. He says, "Whatever you believe, with feeling, becomes your reality; you always act in a manner consistent with your beliefs." In other words if you don't believe you can succeed in a particular endeavour, you are pretty much defeated before you begin.
It is why sports men and women spend as much time as they do on mental preparation as well as physical training - they understand that it is vital to have an unshakable confidence and belief in their abilities if they are to truly get the most out of themselves and to deliver the ultimate performance.
The Law of Belief applies to all areas of our life, including our current friendship/marital situation. Whether we are single or in a relationship, have never been married or have been married before, our current situation has a lot to do with our mindset. The fact is, the way you think about relationships and the beliefs you hold about them, will ultimately determine whether you get into another relationship more than any other factor.
But can it be that simple? Can simply thinking differently about your relationships, and challenging your attitudes and beliefs about them really change your mindset and change the actual reality you experience?
Well according to Mark Joyner, one of the early pioneers of Internet Marketing, the most effective way to permanently change an attitude or belief is to support the change you seek by taking small daily actions which support that new belief. In this way you create actual evidential experience on which you can begin to base the new belief. Just try it yourself and you'll see the difference it makes - and of course always keep praying.
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That's all for this edition,
We look forward to speaking to you soon
With best wishes
Patricia
Patricia Gilliam friendsfirst Membership Manager
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